Sunday, April 19, 2009

Burnt wedding toasts


Next weekend I am maid of honor in my dear friend's wedding. That means I get to adjust her train. And take pictures with her all by myself. And -- brace yourself now -- give a toast.

I know. Me, writing, marking occasions, speaking before large, anonymous groups of people? It's like opium to a Chinese whore.

But it turns out writing a toast is harder than I thought. On one hand, you don't want to be too schmaltzy and send everyone into diabetic shock. On the other hand, you don't want to downplay the significance of the day. And on the mutant third hand, you don't want to incur my father's communications wrath about the sad, sorry route to Hell most modern wedding toasts are traveling along.

Worse, creativity isn't necessarily rewarded in a toast. Have you ever heard a wedding toast haiku?

1.
Congrats on the hitch!
Don't get her pregnant too soon --
it kills all the fun.


2.
Let's talk honeymoon.
We all know what they're up to,
But we'll turn blind eyes.


3.
Love, many splendored!
Cupid's arrow did not hurt?
Shoot one my way then.


Or a wedding toast limerick?

1.
May you always be true to your wife,
And spoon with her all of your life.
But don't be a dork
And go off and fork
Another, or she'll slip you the knife.


2.
At the risk of inducing a coma,
I now hand you both "Love Diplomas."
You've earned nothing but praise --
Just look, Ma, all A's! --
Now get thee to Oklahoma.*


* You try finding a rhyme for diploma.

Or wedding toast Facebook statuses?

1.
LINDSAY is OMG, soooo000OOOO00ooooo happy for her friends! You guys are the best -- guess you're the real BFFs now, LOL. Keep it real! ;););)

2.
BRAD just wants to say hey man, I love you, and I'll never tell Janet about that hooker outside Wichita. Or was it Boise?

Or wedding toast tweets?

1.
We all know what Bob is doing right now ... SYLVIA! Oh snap! Best man FTW. ;)

2.
Bawling my eyes out on the altar. Kelly's so beautiful. Wish I had stuck some tissues in my bra. Oh wait, I can't wear one in this dress.

Or wedding toast skits (acted out by the bridal party)? Or wedding toast stand-up (performed by the drunkest guest available)? Or wedding toast Powerpoints (in case the food's not ready or the DJ is suffering a heart attack)? Or wedding toast text messages (because love ain't free)?

Sigh.

I could just write a regular toast, I suppose. You know, talk about how I never worry about the health and longevity of their commitment. How they give me hope that good, kind, well-matched people can still find one another in our hyper-networked yet sorta lonely world. That they exemplify for me the most enduring, constant elements of a mature adult relationship -- trust, faith, friendship, good humor, and humility.

That I love them both, and love that they love each other even more.

...

Nah. It'll never play. Wedding toast interpretive dance it is!

Image by ceoln

5 comments:

  1. This post made me laugh this morning. Good way to start the week. Great work!

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  2. The Bride12:48 PM

    Ha! I fully expect an interpretive dance with the groomsmen...or something like this:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oy1uWAm4SnI

    Extra points if you get JP to sing a solo. (Do yourself a favor and fast forward to 1:48.)

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  3. Anonymous5:24 PM

    You must remember this,
    a sigh is still a sigh,
    a kiss is still a kiss.
    the fundamental things apply.
    The maid of honor must not
    be lovelier than the bride!

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  4. Whatever you wind up doing, I hope you record it in some way, whether it be by video, audio or transcript, because I know it will be just wonderful and tear-inducing. Good luck to you and the bride! ;-)

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  5. It seems most people dread giving any wedding toasts. No more than the bridgegrooms and their dreaded groom wedding speeches. Getting the balance of humour and sincerity is a tricky thing.

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